TO: April 9th, 2014
Dear Past Self,
You are not inadequate in any sense of the word. You may not be the strongest one on the team or the smartest one in the class or the fastest one in the pool but that does not make you any less important. Stop comparing yourself to other people. Comparison is the thief of joy. Listen to what your dad told you, that things like effort, dedication, and personality will take you much farther than being the best at something. I know you do not believe that right now but one day you will look back and realize he was right. You are punishing yourself far too much right now and it pains me that you cannot see all the good that you have to offer. Here are some things I want you to hear:
- Your true friends are going to be the ones who lift you up, not the ones who make you feel lesser than.
- Competition is not the most important part of sports. You do not have to be the fastest, or the strongest in order to be of value. It is your perseverance that will take you far. And also, it is okay to leave behind things that are not working. There is nothing wrong with quitting a team or activity that is only bringing you anxiety.
- You can make a future out of art. You are talented. And other people are talented too but that does not make you any less talented. There are so many different ways to be an amazing artist.
- If you are not happy with yourself it is okay to change things. Instead of wallowing about the things that you are unhappy with, take charge and be proactive. You are capable of so much more than you know.
- It is okay to put yourself out there and let yourself be heard. It is okay to tell people that you are struggling. The people who care about you can already see it. They want to help you and you should let them.
I know you are just at the start of this journey but I promise you it gets better.
With Love,
Alex (April 14th, 2019)